DON'TS FOR WIVES. A hardcover book written by Blanche Ebbutt, published by A & C Black Publishers Ltd

Essential Stats

• Pages: 80
• Published: Monday 25th June 2007
• Edition: Min
• Dimensions: 11cm tall, 8cm wide, 1cm thick
• Weight: 41 grams
• Dewey Decimal Number: 306.8723
• ISBN: 0713687908
• RRP: £2.99
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Tags

• General
• Marriage
• Love & Romance
• General AAS
• General AAS
• Reference
• English
• Hardcover
• Regular Size

Reviews

This book was written in 1913 and I at first expected it to be of the same kind as Sex Tips for Husbands and Wives from 1894 - a hillarious reminder of how different things used to be and how horrible in many ways. It turns out that either the author was much more enlightened here, or that the 20 years from 1894 to 1913 really brought about a dramatic shift in attitudes. The basic premise of the man as sole breadwinner and the wife as a stay at home mother is definitely still there and while most will find the advice on the use of servants a bit quaint and anachronistic, there is plenty of sound advice in this - something I wish more people would read seriously, rather than just for fun. The advice in here revolves around creating a more caring and comfortable relationship, based on mutual respect and trust. Some bits will still be funny (the yawning while the man has the last pipe of the day mentioned by another reviewer certainly being one such case) but overall the message is take care of your husband but do not, under any circumstances let him trod on you or your independence. Luckily, the same message comes across in the companion book Don'ts for Husbands, which really should be read by both parties as well.

This little book, makes a lovely little gift with the matching book for men, Don'ts for Husbands.
I bought them at Christmas one for myself and one for my husband, they are fun and lighthearted. Outdated but charming but still with relevant tips for marriages today!

Buy the pair!
Don'ts for Wives
Don'ts for Husbands

this book was a lot smaller than i thought it was from the picture but it was in good condition, fast delivery and no damage

GREAT HEN PARTY GIFT - POCKET SIZE AND YOU WILL BE IN STITCHES!!!
FAB

This book was published in 1913, but much of the advice it gives is still relevent today:

Don't try to model your husband on some other woman's husband. Let him be himself and make the best of him.

Don't expect your husband to be an angel. You would get very tired of him if he were.

Don't take your husband at his own valuations, but at yours. He may be unduly modest, or just a little too cocksure.

Don't set your husband up on a pedestal and then cry when you discover he is just an ordinary man, after all.

Don't expect to drop into marital harmony with the end of the honeymoon, you have not thoroughly learned to know each other's foibles by that time.

Don't think you can each go your own way and be as happy as if you pulled in double harness. In all important matters you want to pull together.

Don't expect all the 'give' to be on his side, and all the 'take' on yours.

Don't become a mere echo of your husband. If you never hold an opinion of your own, life will be dreadfully colourless for both of you, and there will be nothing to talk about.

Don't spend your life keeping up appearances. why should you buy expensive furniture for the benefit of your neighbours if you haven't got a balance at the bank?

Don't grudge the years you spend on child-bearing and child-rearing. Remember you are training future citizens, and it is themost important mission in the world.

This delightful little book is full of very sound advice, and my only regret is that it is so short. I would recommend it to anyone looking for a book of advice on how to have a happy marriage.

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